"How precious also are Your thoughts to me... How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand." --Psalm 139:17-18
When you first fell in love, being thoughtful came quite naturally. You spent hours dreaming of what your loved one looked like, wondering what he or she was doing, rehearsing impressive things to say, then enjoying sweet memories of the time you spent together. You honestly confessed, "I can't stop thinking about you." (The Love Dare, pg 16)I have a lot of friends who are really good at showing one another their thoughts throughout the day. If I'm out with a friend it's almost a guarantee their husband will call at some point during the day, not with questions about the kids but just because. These same friends make/send and receive phone calls, text messages, or emails multiple times during a typical work day.
We are not that couple. It took me a lot of time to get comfortable in that, I would spend hours wishing he'd call me or analyzing why he didn't call me. What does it mean? How can he love me if he doesn't call me? Blah blah blah, sob sob sob. Once I was able to realize that the reason he doesn't call me is because he is so focused on being a responsible employee and that it doesn't mean he loves me less than the other guy's I began to relax. His responsibility is in fact one of the reasons I fell in love with him in the first place.
That said, on the occasions that he does call, email or text me just because it is that much more exciting and meaningful to me. Also, the fact that he isn't fond of mid day communication doesn't take away my desire to have that possibility. Enter AOL Instant Messenger. Honestly I never thought I'd use IM again, with Facebook, email, texting, who needs it? We do. Brian is unable to check his personal email, and uncomfortable taking a quick phone call (quarters are apparently really tight and everyone can hear the whole conversation), I can occassionally send him a text, but IM is better. Every employee has IM in order to communicate with each other on their projects etc. So, I downloaded IM (at his request) so that we could be in touch throughout the work day. This helps.
Love requires thoughtfulness--on both sides-- the kind that builds through the constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. Love teaches you how to meet in the middle, respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks. (The Love Dare, pg 18)Today's dare: CONTACT YOUR SPOUSE SOMETIME DURING THE BUSINESS OF THE DAY. HAVE NO AGENDA OTHER THAN ASKING HOW HE OR SHE IS DOING AND IF THERE IS ANYTHING YOU COULD DO FOR THEM.
As I said, many do this daily anyway so this might seem like an easy dare but for us, I think he will definitely see it as an unexpected gesture. I'm curious, how has The Love Dare been going over in your home? Write about being thoughtful today and link up below!
Even if you haven't participated in any of the other dares, or if you cannot commit to doing each dare we want you to feel welcome to join in. Everyone is welcome!
"I thank my God in all my remembrance of you." --Phillippians 1:3